Portrait of a Real Woman - Lacresha Hayes

Lacresha Hayes is a whole lot of things to a whole lot of people. She's a wife and a pastor. She's a student and a teacher. She's an author and a publisher. She's a mom. She's a friend. She's an advocate. But, what I love most about her is she is a really sweet woman. She's very open about her past. She's very positive about her future. She's very outspoken about her causes.

Lacresha blogs all over, but the her one blog that follow most closely is P3. Take a trip by there.

I Await Him

I used to love fairy tales. I loved the old English. I loved the settings. I loved the romance. Men pursued women. They courted them, and won their hearts. Even when I woman was won, she was careful to keep a bit of mystery about herself. And now again, I remember the last line of a book whose title I can no longer remember... "I await him, my prince, lover of my dreams, my destiny, the one who won my heart."

I grew up awaiting him too. I wanted to be won. I wanted someone to love me enough to pursue me, win my affections, chase after my hand in marriage. Well, in reality, things are not that way anymore for most women. It doesn't mean that it can't be. It means we no longer require all those things. Therefore, we no longer get them. Are you still awaiting him, the won who won your heart?

Stop Playing Games

Most relationships begin with those unspoken rules about gaming. I can tell you this, but not that. We can do this now, and then that later. We can talk about this, but this is off guards. Here's a little truth, but here's a whole lot of lies. There's a bit of confidence, and here's a little. There's no wonder most relationships don't make it to the marriage stage.

Games are played by insecure men and women who are afraid no one will love them for who they really are. Don't start your relationship by playing games. Go in with your cards on the table, and I promise you that later on, you'll be happy you did.